As marriage exists on both the spiritual and natural levels, it also exists in both a timeless dimension and a finite one. Its nature includes the past and the future. From the past, we carry with us the influences of our parents, grandparents and ancestors—their values and social contexts, their tragedies and life lessons. Equally, our relationship is creating ramifications into the future. If we have children, we are fostering their potential as human beings, shaping the future as to how they will influence the world around them and create their own relationships. Our partnership will also influence our friends, family, colleagues and those who look to us for guidance. By our choices and intentions, and by the ways we give shape to the love for our partners in our very living, we create the reality around us. Our reality is formed by the interplay of intentions, loves, actions and understanding. When we approach these with the conscious intent to welcome goodness, we embrace the power to make a better world.
The rewards of marriage can be great. As Marilyn Yalom has written, “To be the intimate witness of another person’s life is one of the greatest blessings we can receive in life. To weather the storms, losses, griefs and joys of life with another person can create an irreplaceable attachment to the person who has shared that history with you.”
Emanuel Swedenborg, whose spiritual writings serve as the foundation of our denomination, gave great importance to marriage as a central component of the spiritual life. He wrote that in married love can be found the jewel of human life. He also believed that those partners who cultivate a spiritual union will go on living together as angels for eternity. In light of this vision, may all married partners carry with them the wisdom, compassion, love and skill to make their unions aspire to the greatest heavens.